chasing the sun

A while ago a friend of mine was recounting an experience she’d had in a restaurant when the waiter was flirting with her.

“Did you flirt back?” I asked.

Her response floored me, “Well, no,” she began. “He was obviously not a Christian!”

“How do you know he wasn’t a Christian?” I prodded.

“Because…” she said, shocked that I didn’t already understand what she was getting at, “He was flirting with me!!!”

My sweet, naïve Christian friend has never experienced the joys of flirting with a Christian boy, therefore she associates flirting with hedonism and refuses to respond to or participate in it.

Can this be true? I ask you. Do nice boys really not flirt at all?

I simply will not believe that flirting is outside the realm of modest and appropriate behavior and I truly wonder at people who, even when they are attracted to someone, resist the urge to flirt a little bit with them. Perhaps that makes me too immodest for some…oh well. I think that flirting can be an excellent self-esteem booster and, as long as there are no expectations attached, it can be really fun.

Maybe I assume too much by thinking Christian guys even know how to flirt. Maybe they're relying on their strong character and high-morals to attract the opposite sex. Or, maybe the waiter was a good Christian boy who just wanted my friend to know he thought she was cute…or maybe he just wanted a big tip…either way, she’s still grinning from ear to ear…